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It is Domestic Violence awareness week, and I have come out of domestic violence to share my story and to encourage you that domestic violence will rob you and put you naked on the street if you do not get help. I wish someone had the courage to be real with me and tell me just how it was, instead of the many lies I believed.
The devil will tell you all the lies that, 'they will change, they love you that's why they are jealous, it will not happen again, it was just one off, you are a woman therefore you have to take it, they are men they can do what they want, it will be alright just give time, things will change once you have kids, if you change a bit, learn to serve them more, you are not satisfying them, maybe you talk back, it is your fault ....."
Those of us who have come out of domestic violence situation will be familiar with some of the above.
You lie awake trying to think of ways to make your relationship better, to make them happier, to be better, till you lose sight of who you really are and what you were made for.
You become that person who is jumps at a loud sound, anxious when you are running late from the shops, jump when the phone rings, you try hard to keep the kids extra quiet, be all that they want you to be, but you always run short. There is nothing you can do that stops the ongoing nightmare, that you don't seem to wake up from. We make ourselves believe the lies, that we are loved, that we are extra special that is why, that they are trying to change.
But there is a God who says in Galatians 6:7, "Do not be deceived; for God is not mocked. For whatever a man sows, that shall he reap."
You may not be able to fight this terror alone and you may feel small and insignificant and powerless, but there is a God who can fight for you for He says that the battle is His (2 Chronicles 20:15). And He is not powerless, neither is He deaf that He cannot hear your cry. When you call upon His name, He hears you and He comes to help you (Romans 10:13).
He walks on fire and water to get to you (Matthew 14:22, Daniel 3:25). He came to get me out when there was no hope for me and He healed me from the many fears I carried with me.
The God who sent His only son to die for you, do you think enjoys seeing you beaten and bruised daily. It says in Psalms 56: 8 (NLT), "You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.
You are His most priced creation in James 1:18, He gave us birth through His word. You are his most breathtaking creation and He loves you more than you know. He knows your heart like no one else and He knows you before He formed you in your mothers womb. Decisions are hard, but God is on your side and will help you. He will send you help as He did me. Domestic violence nearly killed me and took my child, it is that serious. I pray His protection over you as He leads you out as He did the children of Israel out of bondage.